Allah made our spouse and put love and mercy in our heart
Ar-rum : 21
21.And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.
Ibn Katsir :
(And among His signs is this that He created for you wives from among yourselves,) meaning, `He created females of your own kind, to be wives for you.'
(that you may find repose in them,) This is like the Ayah,
(It is He Who has created you from a single person, and He has created from him his wife, in order that he might enjoy the pleasure of living with her) (7:189). This refers to Hawwa'. Allah created her from Adam, from the short rib on his left. If Allah had made all of Adam's progeny male, and created the females from another kind, such as from Jinn or animals, there would never have been harmony between them and their spouses. There would have been revulsion if the spouses had been from a different kind. Out of Allah's perfect mercy He made their wives from their own kind, and created love and kindness between them. For a man stays with a woman because he loves her, or because he feels compassion towards her if they have a child together, or because she needs him to take care of her, etc.
(Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.)
Yup! I felt this ayah. Yesterday, on my way back to Jakarta from Bandung. At nite, I talked to my husband about our marriage, how i felt, that in the beginning, i wasn't in love with him, just receive him when he proposed me as i maybe want to get married.
But after all what we have been through, i felt strongly, and slowly that i love him and need him most. Never want to loose him and want him always here beside me and together we built this family.
hehehe... sound that i am in love after 5 years married.